What does it even mean for a man to HONORABLY pursue a woman? What does that even look like in 2012? I can tell you what it looks like in your mid 20′s in Columbia, Missouri…
Exactly. It looks like NOTHING. I’m not writing this out of spite or bitterness or even jealousy at all. I write it as a challenge to myself and also to hear opinions of men and women who are younger, my age, and older.
I recently read an article I found on a friends facebook page titled “The Death of Pretty” (you can find it here) that raised some GREAT questions in my little noggin. There has been a shift from women being called “pretty” {which conjures up the image of a nice, proper, sweet woman, who probably knits baby hats and tiny little dog sweaters for her maltese, and never ever uses a cuss words or speaks badly about other people} to “HOT” or “HOTT” if you’re in highschool {which conjures up an image of a Mizzou sorority girl… oops I mean a girl who you see out at da club wearing a too tight leopard printed dress that her LRB’s “fluff” out of, most likely extensions with 2 toned skunk hair but in a sort of cute way, gets all the attention from dudes, says “like” and “totes” 100-400 times in 2 minutes, and is the girl that every guy wants to take home}.
The best way I can describe this is through my good friend Miranda Lambert’s video “Only Prettier”…
So, where is the challenge? Why do we think we have to be the “hot/tt” girl to land the dude? Being the “pretty” girl doesn’t equal boring or tiny knitted baby dog sweaters! I read a quote that said “Keep your head, heels, and standards high.” I think that sums up the “pretty” girl well… more often than not the “pretty” girl is the girl who stays true to herself and to what she believes is the right thing to do… even if it doesn’t land her the guy. The “hot” girl dresses, acts, and looks like the girl that dudes wanna take home… not to have a nice conversation about politics.
I know both types of girls and I know for sure what group I fall in… not without the occasional “BUT! I WANT TO LOOK LIKE HER TO GET THE ATTENTION OF THAT GUY WHO IS IN ALL ACTUALITY A TOTAL AND COMPLETE JERK BUT IT’S F INE BECAUSE HE’LL FEED MY ATTENTIONOMETER FOR 5 SECONDS.”
AG, where is this going? Let me be frank. Girls… step it up and cut the crap. If you want to be respected by guys… if you want to quit the dramatic “oh em gee listen to what happened with frankie” (sidenote: who is frankie and why did that name come to my mind? no clue.)… if you want to end up with a guy who actually wants to be with you because he LIKES YOU AND WILL PURSUE YOU WITH HONORABLE INTENTIONS (oh my gosh that’s another blogpost for another day!) AND WILL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED… you will cut the crap and start respecting yourself enough to put away the tight little skankified zebra pleather suit and put on a sweet little cashmere sweater set… oh gosh there I go again with the stereotype. But you get my jist.
Now… let’s open Pandora’s box, shall we? Comment away with your thoughts on the article and “The Death of Pretty”. True or false?
AG
p.s. i still like “bad sandy” in grease… just sayin.
